30 June 2013
Flowers at the Beach
27 June 2013
How to Write a Love Letter
HOWEVER. I realize the above paragraph may appeal far more to my female readers. And I think I may safely say that while we would delight in the process of purchasing and using beautiful paper, a thoughtful love letter FROM our man would be treasured on any paper. Yet...if he chose delightful stationery? (as my husband has done on multiple occasions) I think we ladies would feel especially treasured.
About the paper, though. If you're a lady, you may be wondering whether the paper should be feminine or masculine. Well, it could be either. Feminine paper that you especially like will remind him of you. Masculine paper that reminds you of him (maybe a fish theme for a fisherman, or botanical illustrations for a gardener, for example) has a way of saying, "I didn't just pull this out of my stash of paper I use to write to my girlfriend from England."
If you can't find paper you like at the usual places (Michael's, Target, Halmark, Walmart, Shopko), search for stationery on Amazon. As usual, they'll have a lot of options.
2. Choose Delightful Stamps, and Buy them Ahead of Time. Expressions of love should be sent right away, to be enjoyed by your sweetheart as soon as possible. Don't delay simply because you don't have a stamp in the house, or because you can't make it to the post office right away. Slip the stamp on the envelope, and put the letter in the outgoing mail as soon as you've written the letter. Forever stamps are great not only because they don't go out of date, but also because they tell your sweetheart you'll be together forever. (I know. That's sappy. But we ARE talking about love letters, you know.)
Of course, if you're simply writing to a spouse, you can just leave the letter on the pillow where they'll see it at bedtime. Even for married couples, however, there may be times to mail a letter to your spouse: when you know he or she will be visiting relatives without you, when you have to travel for work and you can mail a letter home, or just for fun when you can send a letter to your spouse's office as a surprise.
3. Use a Good Pen. Don't get stuck using a pen that's running out of ink. Or a pen you hate. If you like blue ball point, make sure you use that. If you like gel pens, use those. If you like the really liquidy inky kinds, use those. Have a supply on hand. A good pen doesn't have to be an expensive pen, but you don't want your thoughts to get interrupted merely because your pen isn't writing the way you like it to. I'm serious. It can (and does) happen.
4. Slow your hand enough to write your best script. Just in case you're wondering, there's still a place in the world for cursive handwriting. Truly there is. If yours is terrible, practice before you write the real letter. Or if you have a carefully crafted print with personality, use that. Whatever is your best, whatever is you, whatever is special. Even if it's a little rusty or messy. (Although it's nice when you make an extra effort to be readable, of course, because you wouldn't want the words "I love you" to be indecipherable.) When you try to add a special touch of some kind, such as writing in cursive when you normally don't, your sweetheart will notice.
5. Be Specific, Be Authentic. I vividly recall sitting in my undergraduate music history class studying love songs from a few hundred years ago. The poetry was beautiful, moving, creative, romantic. Our energetic teacher called our attention to a particular verse, shouted over the music playing not so much in the background, and said something to this effect: "Guys, take notice! This is how you should talk to a lady! Right girls? What lady's heart wouldn't be won with words like this? Am I right?"
Well, he looked at the wrong girl for an answer. I was too practical for such questions. I squirmed in my seat, and blurted out with an honest measure of skepticism in my tone, "I don't know!"
And I stand by my answer to this day. I love a good poem, but I wouldn't love good poetry from a man who had no integrity, or who just said nice things to sweep me off my feet and then didn't treat me well in real life. I wouldn't love the most romantic verses or the sweetest harmonies if all they were was an exercise in creative writing. The problem with those old love songs in class was that they could have been written about or to anyone.
I love getting love letters from my husband, because he always writes things that are true, and he always writes things that are specific to me (and me only).
When he writes that he would never want to be married to anyone else, I love that because I know that's what's really in his heart. When he writes that I'm beautiful, I know he means it because he treats me like I'm beautiful (and doesn't cheapen his talk by looking at any other women). When he writes that he loves to be with me, he backs up his words by actually spending time with me. When he writes about how much he appreciated something I did that day (paying bills, doing dishes, making a meal, running errands, whatever), I feel truly and authentically appreciated because he notices when I do things to feed our life and relationship.
So the point?
Say things your sweetheart knows you really mean, and don't go live your life in a way that contradicts those things or makes him or her feel like your words are cheap. Freely say those things about beauty and how much you love the feel of his hand in yours and all that, yes (although be careful with the physical attributes if you're not married yet). But don't be afraid the apparently mundane things will ruin the poetry. Sometimes the real-life things, the specific memories, are the things that make the letter the sweetest. Those are the things that say, This letter couldn't have been written to anyone but me.
26 June 2013
Today's Playlist
24 June 2013
Visiting Jefferson's Monticello
23 June 2013
Visiting Washington's Mount Vernon
22 June 2013
Nebuchadnezzar and the Fiery Furnace
20 June 2013
Hiking Tiger Mountain
17 June 2013
How to Prune Basil
16 June 2013
The Mother-in-Law Garden
This summer, I do not have my own garden.
You may recall from a few posts earlier this spring that I had gigantic plans to the contrary, but those plans came to a screeching halt a few months ago. Not, however, before the dear husband and I had ordered and started seeds indoors.
As the little herbs, tomatoes, peppers, and eggplants sprouted in their toilet paper tubes cut in halves and thirds, watering them became an act of faith for me. No matter how big the space out back, I knew I would be leaving it by the time I would have set them all out to enjoy a real home in the garden. So there they were, my three disposable casserole dishes from Costco full of little plants, depending on me to care for them while I wondered where and if they would be planted to bear their fruits.
But more about that next week when I can share photos, because although I wouldn't call my current location one of permanence, the little guys actually do have a delightful home to take root in for the summer.
What I want to show you for today (and maybe more as we wiggle our toes in the dirt together again tomorrow) are some delights from the mother-in-law garden. Which really is the father-in-law garden, too, of course. And which I've been given the distinct pleasure of helping in over this weekend.
Just to give you an idea what's here:
* Two kinds of raspberries, one ever-bearing, the other not. My in-laws have gradually moved them so that the rows run north-south, which gives them morning and afternoon sun on each side of the row. Brilliant, right?
* Three grape vines.
* A large compost pile. The pile migrates around the outside corners of the garden each year.
* A giant sage patch.
* Currents of some kind.
* Two long, double rows of dahlias.
* Lots of onions.
* Potatoes.
* Beets.
We planted zucchini, sunflowers, black eyed susans, and zinnias yesterday, along with a nice patch of heirloom dill. I hope they dry some of the dill and send it to me at Christmas. Good thing my husband's family makes wish lists so I don't have to feel bad for asking. (Smile)
We have more things to plant tomorrow, and I'll (try to) let you know what we do.
But as a parting thought, I just have to show you the little volunteer surprise we found in a little brick wall. We harvested the leaves and dried them so this little oregano plant wouldn't go to seed too soon.
Oh, and some of her lillies. Aren't they pretty?
13 June 2013
Why You Should Start Playing Disc Golf
10 June 2013
Welcome Home {Away from Home}
Everyone needs that place, those places, where even the strawberries are happy to see them.
We arrived today, nealy three thousand miles of road covered safely, all the little garden starts with us and happy.
And it feels good to be home {away from home}.
06 June 2013
Honeysuckle
The day before the last day, some children were over. They had a way about them--a way of finding every possible interesting thing that could be found. They delighted me with their explorer spirit, and reminded me to look around for beauty, among which was honeysuckle, growing right at the back of my own yard.
Oh, to wander back there, not even close enough to touch it yet, and smell the sweetness wafting on the breeze! Am I ever glad I didn't miss that!
Thank you. For reminding me that in the midst of chaos and constant labor, there just may be something beautiful worth stopping for, right under my nose.
02 June 2013
The Mini Truck
These last couple of months have been full of many things, delight being one of the things.
You see, the boarding school where my husband taught this year decided to PAY me to choose and plant flowers around campus, and to weed, water, and prune. It has been one of the most fun things I could have been doing.
Today was my last day. I tried not to be sad, but instead to enjoy the progress "my" flowers have been making, and of course my last chance at driving the mini truck.
I really like driving the mini truck.
It's a stick shift. It's battered. I sit on the "wrong" side of the vehicle to drive it. And it's mini. It's small. Which means I can go just about anywhere with it I want to. Which never really includes a real road, since the only paved surfaces I drive it on are campus roadways and sidewalks.
I drive it through the orchard. I drive it across the lawn. I drive it on the side of the hill and bump off the sidewalk and back into the parking lot. (On purpose.)
But today was goodbye to my flowers and my mini truck.
I hope the next person who cares for the flowers and drives the little truck loves them just as much as I do.
01 June 2013
Mountain Laurel
The mountain laurel, the newly learned name for the budding bushes we've been watching for weeks, is blooming. I've never seen anything like it, and I'm just stopping quickly by to document its loveliness for you.